Sexual abuse

It can happen anywhere on the journey into hell. But it is most difficult to identify after the psychological conditioning has taken effect. Society, judicial system, media and cultural differences help shape the conception of what constitutes as rape. Women in particular are blamed for everything regarding a sexual assault. The full responsibility hangs on the woman. Regardless of the fact that it actually takes two people, only one is to blame. It’s usually the woman, the story goes back to the beginning of time, eve was responsible for the descent from Eden. Eve was the woman who cannot think for herself, she should of been kept under Adam’s reign and not defied her partner. Her disobedience is responsible for the fall of humanity. Women are blamed again! By religion!
It’s because she dressed provocatively! She asked for it! She never said no! She has a reputation so she’s easy prey? The list is endless, but denies all responsibility and accountability on the man.
In prisoner of war camps, terrorising and denying the hostages basic human rights enables the predator to carry out inhumane acts against the hostage, to access information or extract a submission, these tactics help reduce the victims defences. In a domestic situation, this doesn’t count. They were married, therefore she knows this is part of the marriage contract. They live together, oh my god, how dare she walk past him to visit the bathroom whilst getting changed for bed in her underwear and solicit him! She asked for it!
A predator instigates an argument because he’s angry, he needs to release this anger and will pick a fight to relieve some of the pressure, then after the fight, when nothing actually was resolved, she becomes worn down. Or she may still be upset with the verbal onslaughts that have been exchanged and now she feels defeated. The last thing she wants is SEX! But he’s still has this pent up aggression and it needs to be released. She says no, the onslaughts start all over again. He uses his manipulative tactics to promise intimacy and connection. For some women this is respite from the war zone she currently resides. For others, it’s a chore that has to be done to allow her to sleep. It’s becomes a means to an end. The mind games regarding use of sex are intricate and insidious. Gas lighting comes into play, loaded with contempt and indirect threats of getting it elsewhere and it will be her fault as she was inadequate. Her feelings are insignificant now. Her emotional well being and spirit is begging for it all to stop.
Sex is about power. Period. In healthy intimate relationships, this is managed and respected. But in unhealthy relationships, it’s a given rule that man needs sex and his wife is going to submit. By manipulation, she will surrender. But surrender doesn’t excuse the fact that she was coerced and bullied into it. This is rape. Under duress, and by continuous badgering and verbal onslaughts against her. The woman is now submitting against her own humanity for peace. She surrenders her body in defeat, as she now has learnt that it’s a means to an end. The onslaughts will now stop.
This can lead to physical assaults during sex too. Or degrading acts portrayed through pornography. The degradation of the feminine is being slaughtered against the masculine. She has a choice, she can either comply – or face abuse. Physical, emotional, spiritual and psychological or altogether. Say no and get a slap or pushed off the bed, or worse, a full physical beating. Verbal abuse about her sexuality, she can walk away, to ignore the abusive battleground, only to be followed around, harassed and stalked, by further abuse. It’s never ending, until submission is achieved.