The beginning of Trauma Bonding

As a child, we are often conditioned to behave and learn from what our care givers believe is the correct way to live. Our care givers are led by a society in which a collective group of people develop rules and restrictions for the development of humanity, including, control, conformity and submissive acceptance. When we as a child attempt to do or say something that goes against the rules that society has designed. We feel anger at being chastised. This anger, is then repressed.

Anger is not a negative destructive emotion, it is an emotion that when utilised correctly, we can work through it, to release any negative conditioning we have inbuilt into our personality.

When expressed it helps to develop a healthy sense of the self and enables the child to learn and develop an understanding of their body and the reactions their body gives them. When anger is repressed, the child suppresses their true feelings, represses the memory of the trauma and idealises those guilty of the abuse. Later in life, as an adult, they will have no logical memory of the trauma and will have dissassociated from the original cause. Those feelings of anger, helplessness anxiety and despair will find an expression through their shadow persona engaging in destructive acts against others, such as criminal behaviour, mass murder, to name a few. Or, they will take responsibility for the anger and turn against themselves with addictions, alcoholism, suicide and psychotic disorder.

Emotional suppression inevitably leads to neurosis – anxiety and depression or psychosis – personality disorders and insanity.

Emotional repression and depression are unresolved traumas related to earlier painful experiences. The person has learnt from a very young age, the response of fight or flight. The chemicals in the emotional body of a negative repressed emotion, floods throughout the body and adrenaline is released. The adrenaline is designed to alert you to impending danger and once this has been activated, your blood vessels dilate, allowing the neurons from the brain to release an uncomfortable message to the body.

As a child we don’t understand what the chemical was that flooded out in the blood stream, so in a state of panic, we seek out something or someone to help us alleviate this fear that has just occurred. If we don’t find a care giver, to reassure us, we then try to run from this uncomfortable feeling and disassociate from the danger it presented.