The human mind an amazing organ, housing billions of neurons and neural pathways, leading from one neural network to another. Imagine a grid around the brain that resembles a spiders web, this is the main frame of sharing information. Data is observed or absorbed, and analysed or interpreted individually, translating energetic information from one destination to another. The data from the environment, is translated to the individual and this data is stored or discarded, depending on whether the data, has an emotional component. If there is no emotional component, the data has no value or meaning, therefore, it is discarded. However, if there is an emotion felt, whether the emotion was good, or bad, the memory will stay, in storage.
The mind translates information it receives from visualisations and sensory stimulus, de-coding and re-coding information so we understand something that we can relate to, from an energetic imprint to one that we can feel emotionally and attach meaning to.
What feelings we attach to experiences, impacts not only the memory of the event, but also the power that we assign to the event. The mind analyses everything, the emotional intelligence, the range and depth of emotional experience, the physical intelligence, where pain or pleasure is felt, the mental/intellectual intelligence, what we think we know and the intuitive/spiritual intelligence, what we do know, but can’t prove.
Emotional intelligence, which isn’t the same as physical age, is a measurement of maturity, that doesn’t regress back to infantile states, using drama or manipulation for attention or personal gain. Emotional intelligence is knowing the difference between feeling emotionally charged and then acting upon it as opposed to reacting from previously programmed emotional responses. To be emotionally mature is to be responsible and accountable for your behaviour.
Dysfunctional bonding is created in childhood from abuse. If a child is raised by violence or is emotionally neglected, the pattern from early life is ingrained in the child. Emotional neglect is as damaging as physical neglect. A child that is neither loved or cared for emotionally, will develop coping skills and habits, to acquire love and emotional support from relationships away from the family home. Or, repeat the same pattern of dysfunctional programming to the next generation.
A child will develop into an adult and apply the same dysfunctional habits and traits for survival against violence they experienced, using coping skills they learnt from a young age, to protect them. The emotional attachments they created from childhood, will continue into adult life. Survival strategies from emotional neglect emerge in adulthood as addictions, impulsive urges, dangerous liaisons and shadow behaviours, to name a few.
The cycle repeats itself again, until somebody stops the pattern or challenges the dysfunction to break the cycle, of emotional neglect.