Our minds are in constant activity, analysing experiences, comparing traumas and misery with our environment, community and connections to our world. Our minds are only one aspect that make up our whole self, yet we spend all our life, living in the mind. Daydreaming, planning, reminiscing, plotting, waiting, the list is endless as are the images, symbols and unconscious experiences that are reflected back to us.
We analyse and make a judgement based on previous learnt experiences and our own concept of what and who we are. So much of our personality is constructed through the sensory world, cultural traditions and sadly, servitude or oppression. As a child we are taught certain subjects that encourage conformity and obedience. The child is a receptacle for gathering information and knowledge, like a sponge, the innocent child absorbs nature, engages in imaginative play through discovery and exploration and accumulates learnt experiences within the family. The child continues the family bloodline, family name and also, the family rules and traditions.
The family is the first institution that a child is welcomed to; the family home has the most potent power over a child than any other institution in the world. The child learns and develops by the sanctions, rules and conformity that society defines and aspires for, through the family. The family is forced to accept and conform, to many of society’s rules and conventions, regardless of whether they were agreed upon by the collective voice of all involved. Society, religion and education all descend on the child’s mind, filling it up with obedience to routines and rigid structures that the family comply with and adapt to. So much of our time and attention is taken up by the external world, we’re constantly bombarded with materialistic objects to encourage lust and greed as sub consciously we are afraid we may not have enough, or worse still, we may be faced with the fact that we are not enough?
The subconscious mind communicates through symbols, images and archetypes; this information is understood and translated through our intuition. There is no concept for words on the sub conscious realm, we identify and acknowledge all life lessons from an emotional standpoint as love, or hate. The intuitive language is extra sensory, absorbed through the body, received in the stomach, and translated by the mind. However, the mind has many complexes and traumas that strengthens the ego voice and power, if the energy exchange is malignant and toxic to the individual, the person will feel a charge and their emotions will indicate to them their response. Sub consciously, we feel the emotion first, anger, or love? Then react, by programmed responses taught from our perception of survival.
The rejected feelings that are buried from traumas, hidden in the back of your mind in the shadows, fiercely protected, by the ego. The bigger the ego, the more brutal the attack feels, when it is inflamed by injustice, or criticism. To neutralise the charge, to eliminate the pain, you have to dive into your darkness, root out the poison, to find the gold. By examining your own traumas, you learn to stop blaming anyone and take responsibility for your attitude and feelings.
The sub conscious mind stores your shame, your buried traumas and humiliations, find the reason, purge the pain from your mind through self-analysis to find out why and you will find your freedom.
Do you perceive your own pollution, or is the projection being reflected back at you? You have to distinguish between what your reactions to your spouse/partner are telling you about his psychology and what they are merely expressing about your own.